Loving Too Much
No relationship that humans have is quite like the attachment we form to non- humans. Many of us live with or have lived with an animal at some. There is no “our” about this situation. If this relationship goes to shit there will be no doggy visitation rights. This is YOUR dog. There's nothing. There's nothing wrong with being thoroughly obsessed with your dog. Even though you're judged on a regular basis, you know that your.
In return for all the love we give our pets, we receive proven health benefits like reduced stress, faster recovery from illness, improved fitness and better social interaction with others. And an added bonus of our relationship with our pets is there's never the kind of conflict between us like there can be between humans. And let's be honest … most of us could use a few more conflict-free connections in our lives!
For Those Who May Feel Over-Attached to a Pet … If you're concerned your bond with your pet is unhealthy — or heading in that direction — here are a few questions to ask yourself: Has your devotion to your pet caused problems in your relationship with your spouse, partner, a close friend or relative? Do you refuse invitations to go places and do things if your pet isn't included?
Do you spend more time bonding with your pet than you do nurturing relationships with family and friends? Do you feel content just with your pet, and tend to avoid interacting with other people? Do you spend more time thinking about your pet than other matters in your life?
Do you feel you could not survive without your pet in your life? Your attachment to your pet shouldn't interfere with your ability to relate to others. It shouldn't negatively impact your day-to-day ability to function.
When Bonding May Be Unhealthy The attachment we feel with our pets varies widely among individuals, depending on the function the animals have in our lives, the personal needs they fill in us and the strength of the emotional bonds we have with them. A farmer's cat whose job is to keep the barn free of rats and mice may be regarded differently from the beloved house cat who provides an elderly woman who lives alone with her only source of unconditional love and companionship.
Is it possible, however, to become too emotionally attached to a pet? Whether the relationship with a pet is unhealthy or not depends on many variables.
14 Signs You Have An Unhealthy Attachment To Your Dog
We know all too well that human relationships can be difficult to form and maintain. Human beings can be moody, irritating and argumentative, and gaining the affection of another person requires a great deal of patience, understanding, effort and sacrifice. And no matter how much we love one another, people can and do leave us. Friends move away, couples separate, spouses divorce, children grow up and families scatter all over the country. But what about our pets?
They are always there for us, readily available, offering an endless supply of love and affection and asking virtually nothing in return. Story continues below advertisement Story continues below advertisement And when I got off the phone, I called an expert.
The problem with loving your dog too much - The Globe and Mail
James Serpell is a professor of animal welfare and head of the Center for the Interaction of Animals and Society at the University of Pennsylvania. Having studied animal-human relationships for 30 years, he sees dogs as "non-human social support providers. It's all about the changes in human society. Was I being a killjoy to wonder if we're headed for the dystopia described in P. James's Children of Men, a future world in which no children have been born for 25 years and divorcing couples battle for custody of the cats?
Which is not to say I'm anti-pet. I have a history of beloved dogs, stray cats and hamsters.
It's just that I have always been clear about who is leading whom. Klam explained about her work in animal rescue, noting that despite the economic difficulty in the United States, people are still lavishing their dogs with accoutrements and treats. She couldn't bring herself to. But then she couldn't sleep.
That might have made her feel happy, useful, caring, a fully conscious human. Story continues below advertisement She was kidding.
She was being self-derogatory.