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Let Your Relationships Refine Not Define - Cliff Young - Read about An architect and former youth worker, he now works with Christian. The Godly Girl's Guide to Guys, Katie McCoy - Read more Christian women cream, we probably all need to have a DTR (Define the Relationship) on the topic . This teen devotion shows a picture of what true love is. Sometimes with all the different portrayals of love, its hard to really determine what true love is. Many times, dating relationships are centered around selfish motives.
He is our great example of how to relate to others. We should treat others with compassion. The main thing to grasp is that this is an emotional term. Being moved to compassion involves the feelings, not just the head. It means being touched by the needs of people so that we respond with appropriate action to help them. Jesus used this word to describe the good Samaritan, who felt compassion for the wounded traveler and was moved to help him Luke He used it of the father of the prodigal son, who saw his wayward son returning, felt compassion for him, ran to him, embraced him and kissed him Luke He was stirred emotionally when he saw his son coming home.
Jesus felt compassion for the widow of Nain who had lost her only son Luke 7: When Jesus saw the multitudes, He felt compassion for them Matt. On another occasion, Jesus and His disciples withdrew to a lonely place for some much needed rest.
When they arrived by boat, they discovered that the crowd had arrived by land before them. Jesus saw them, felt compassion for them and healed their sick. The disciples saw them and said as I would have said! Jesus saw the multitude and felt compassion because He saw that they were like sheep without a shepherd Mark 8: It all depends on your focus. We should treat others with kindness.
To be kind means to be free from all which is harsh, rough, and bitter. This word was used to describe wine that had mellowed Luke 5: A kind person is not demanding and pushy. He gives others room to be imperfect without crawling all over them. Joseph is a great example of kindness. His brothers had hated him and sold him into slavery. He easily could have taken vengeance on his brothers, but instead, he forgave them and was generous with them.
After their father, Jacob, died, the brothers became afraid because they thought that perhaps Joseph would now pay them back for what they had done to him. But when Joseph heard it, he wept and spoke kindly to his brothers, assuring them of his continuing love and care for them and their children Gen. Jesus said that God Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men Luke 6: Paul said that the kindness of God leads us to repentance Rom.
We should treat others with humility. But I find that neither helpful nor correct. But then what does it mean? Biblically, there are three sides to it: First, a humble person is Christ-sufficient, not self-sufficient.
A humble person consciously relies on the Lord and recognizes that God has given him all that he has 1 Pet. Second, a humble person has a proper evaluation of himself. Third, a humble person esteems others more highly than himself.
As Paul said Phil. He esteemed us more highly than himself. Youth Pastors love to perpetuate it. What if they don't get married? What if there is no future spouse? The godliness of singleness should always be a very important part of every relationship talk. Even Paul managed to make it a focus when he talked about relationships.
He even thinks singleness is better than marriage! So why doesn't it ever come up when we talk about marriage with our students? Who is your soul mate? It's whoever your soul mates with. If you have sex - you found your soul mate. That's how it works. God bestows on you awesome mysterious power to become one with someone else. You don't have to travel the world or pray really hard or scour the internet to find "the one" for you.
Because there isn't one for you. For some, there might be a lot.
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For others, there might not be any. Let's lay it out clearly. If there was one person for everyone If that's the case then their original partner that they should've married will go on to marry someone else who also was meant for someone else.
Not to mention that but there are more men than women in the world at any given moment so you tell me how that math is supposed to work out. Get this idea in your minds please: You're telling your Christian girls not to be unequally yoked but also telling them to hope for their future spouse but you know that there's not enough christian men for every christian woman in the church.
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So why aren't we talking more about celibacy and singleness? Full Surrender, Above All This is the basis of everything we've discussed. Christianity can be summed up in a continual, daily, surrendering to God.
Whoever seeks to keep their life will lose it and whoever loses their life will preserve it. Giving our lives to Christ also includes our dating, our sex, our singleness, our marriage.
End With A Non-Shaming Object Lesson Too often object lessons surrounding sex talks are meant to scare, belittle, shame, embarrass, and degrade Christians usually christian girls. Don't use any of these. We take water and spit phlegm in it and say - no one would ever want to drink this. Or we hold up a beautiful rose and encourage others to pass it around during the talk and at the end we say "where's that rose? And we say, "Who would ever want this rose now?
We lose our ability to bond. Take a hundred dollar bill. Ask people if they want it. Then crumple it up and ask people if they still want it. Now stomp on it. Now spit on it. Now tear it in half. Do you never boast to or about each other? Is your relationship characterized by humility? Are you never rude to each other? Are you not easily angered with each other? Do you keep no record of wrongs?
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Are you truthful with each other? Do you protect each other?
Do you trust each other? If you answered "yes" to the above questions, then 1 Corinthians 13 says that you truly have a loving relationship. If you answered "no" to any of the above questions, then maybe you should discuss those issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Friendships You need to help your friend stop something if they are doing something wrong that you know of.