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Check out our expert relationship, dating and couple advice to help keep healthy, happy & loving relationships, all on SELF. Mar 29, How to keep your relationship alive Credit: GETTY It's the question we all want to know the answer to: how to keep sex and love alive. Here. A collection of articles on love, sex and relationships, with tips and advice on how to have healthy and happy relationships.
This is a sure recipe for happiness! Especially if both lovers give more on each side! On Finding Love My grandparents died before I was born and my parents are deceased and never liked anyone I dated, really. So, I go by the rule of the litter box.
Don't marry anyone who won't help with the cat litter box when you are away, busy or when you are sick. The couple who served as my polestars for love shared litter box tasks and everything else.
That is my advice to myself in midlife, seeking love. The litter box is the litmus test for love and compatibility.
Now the question is, will I listen to it? On Perspective "I always thought that love was about desire -- being with someone, holding someone, feeling someone. But it isn't necessarily. Love can come in lots of different ways and lots of different guises.
She's talking about her experience as a single woman artist nearing 50, but it's a great reminder for all of us, no matter our relationship status or age.
Not only can love be found everywhere -- in an idea, an experience, a lover, a friend, etc. The trick is being open. As Emily Dickinson wrote, "The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience. Her first book, Among the Suitors: I can no longer remember who first passed on the wisdom. In my mind, it's some sexy woman-of-a-certain age with five ex-husbands, smoking a Virginia Slim But the real identity is lost to me.
Even so, the advice has stuck in my head all these years, and I still recite it to single friends who seem to have trouble making romantic relationships stick. The point is not that you should act arrogantly or as if entitled, but that, if you act as if you have value in the world, others are more likely to treat you that way. In the hetero world, this means letting the guy pursue you. Which is to say, not calling too much or being too accommodating to his needs.
Conversely, if he fails to call, hold your head high and walk away. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I still think that, in the early days of a relationship, the onus falls on the opposite sex. On Marriage My dad said something which has never left me in my 14 years of marriage, "You only have to answer to yourself. No one is living your life except for you.
If you can live with this man don't let others influence your decision. And always remember that this man is the father of your children. The best advice I ever got about love was from my grandmother, right before I got married.
She said, "Marriage goes through cyclical phases, it's almost like the movements of planets. Sometimes you're so close, the two of you, your orbits are in synch, and sometimes you move so far away from each other, you feel you'll never reconnect, never reenter each other's orbits, you're too far apart.
The trick to marriage is having faith in the reconnection, waiting for the inevitable closeness again. She died a couple of years later.
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My marriage lasted 12 years. I never forgot this advice; we moved far away from each other many times, and I waited it out, and sure enough, we came back into synch again. And then at the end, we moved too far apart to ever reenter each other's orbits, out of each other's fields of gravity, and that's when I knew it was over. My parents have been married 35 years.
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The best advice about love I got from my father, Michael Rockland. He told me that when a married couple fights, no one wins.
Likewise, making you happy will make him feel good. And research shows that the sexual pleasure of one partner increases the pleasure of the other partner.
Boost lasting love with sexual novelty. While you don't have to break out the whips and chains, a little novelty can increase anticipation, which means that more hormones are secreted. Hotter, more thrilling sex for both of you. Going on a roller-coaster ride, taking a balloon trip, shooting the rapids—anything with a touch of danger to it—can make him fall more deeply in love with you. Do something great for someone your partner loves. If you show kindness and love for someone he loves, you will earn major points.
When you enter a relationship, you also enter a relationship with all his family and friends. Show him that the people who are important to him are important to you. Your Top Sex Questions, Answered! Summarize and immortalize loving moments. Tell him how you feel.
Write a loving note or poem. Lovers have been doing this from the beginning of time because it works. Boost the chemicals of love. There are many brain chemicals that go into the feeling of love and attachment. Oxytocin is known as the bonding, trust, and cuddle hormone.